The Training & Coaching Specialists

ARE YOU CODEPENDENT?     

1. I talk or think about others in a critical manner.
2. I sometimes have difficulty being direct with people in an appropriate manner.
3. I have unrealistic expectations of myself and others.
4. I deflect or change the subject when asked a question that makes me feel uncomfortable.
5. I find that I have to explain myself and repeat or elaborate on what I've said to others.
6. There are some things I want to do in my life but I don’t have the time or the opportunity.
7. I find myself giving advice or direction to others - even when it hasn't been asked for!
8. I seek reassurance and/or permission before I act, alternatively, I don't act at all!
9. I have trouble remembering what I or the other person has said in conversations.
10. I often try to get other people to change their behaviour.
11. I believe that if other people changed their behaviour, my situation would improve.
12. I sometimes try to "rescue" or "save" people when they get into trouble.
13. I use language, intellectualism, or some other form of manipulation in an attempt to control others.
14. I find it difficult to listen effectively and/or pay appropriate attention.
15. I seek and listen to advice from inappropriate and unqualified people - including myself!
16. I get my feelings about myself (both good and bad), from other people and the performance of   actions.
17. I have the same types of relationships again and again with the same type of people, avoid relationships altogether, and have ineffective communication skills.
18. I don’t know how to really love, care for, or please myself.
19. I use the word "but" very often.
20. I often do things for other people that they are capable of doing for themselves.
21. I talk more often than I listen, usually about myself or my problems.
22. I try to find solutions to my problems by myself and avoid seeking help from others.
23. I have trouble keeping my problems in proper perspective.
24. I depend on others, and often seek permission or approval before I act.
25. Alternatively I act on impulse and regret my actions later.
26. I often try to get other people to change their behaviour – usually through manipulation rather than direct communication.
27. I have low self esteem and self confidence.
28. I avoid accepting personal responsibility for my actions, behaviour, and the consequences I experience.
29. I get angry, annoyed, frustrated, and/or emotional when people tell me the truth about myself.'
30. I often feel as if others don’t accept me and this causes me pain.
31. I feel angry, annoyed, frustrated, and/or emotional about this list.

1 - 5                

Yes you are Codependent, but it's probably not causing you too many problems.

5 - 10              

Your level of Codependency is relatively serious and you are most likely suffering the consequences of your actions in these areas.

Above 10        

You are Codependent to the point where you would probably be experiencing severe behavioral consequences.

Above 15        

You are strongly advised to seek immediate help from a Codependency specialist!

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